Good Morning ASD.
I hope you all had a wonderful weekend. Welcome to ASD Spirit Week! We look forward to a great week on our way to a well deserved October Break. Last week I spent 4 days in Abu Dhabi at a Leadership Conference. While at the conference I was able to meet and speak with educators from all over the world. At one point during the conference I ended up having a conversation over coffee with a fellow educator. Over the course of our conversation I learned quite a bit about someone who I had only just met.
When we got up to leave he said," Wow, I shared a lot and I just met you. That was probably a lot more than you wanted to hear."
"No, it was really interesting. I enjoyed the conversation." I replied.
"Well I really appreciate it because it was good to just talk. It was kind of like a therapy session."
I laughed and said," I'm definitely not a therapist, but it was all good."
Then he said," No but you listened and I didn't feel any judgement."
This interaction caused me to reflect on how much of a hindrance being judgemental can be to listening to others. Being judgemental is a hindrance to making others feel heard. Ultimately being judgemental makes it harder for us to practice kindness. We have had many warnings throughout history to avoid this mental state.
"Be curious, not judgemental."
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them."
"To set up what you like against what you dislike is a disease of the mind."
"Judgement impedes enlightenment."
"Judge not, that ye be not judged."
Remaining in this curious open state allows us to be our best selves when we engage with others. How much kinder would social media and day to day interactions be if we all reserved judgement just a little more?
As always the advice is free and you don't have to take it.